The holiday season can be an especially chaotic time, with family gatherings to gift giving, it can be an unexpected time of high stress and intense emotion. This can be due to anything from disabling conditions that cause travel restrictions to the loss of a loved one, making planning for the holiday season more frightful than fun. Remember, it is okay to not always feel happy but learning how to manage your expectations and shifting your perspective can ultimately make this time merrier!
Some ordinary reasons for holiday blues are grief, isolation and societal pressure. For those dealing with disabilities, being far from family can be challenging especially if you are physically unable to travel. In addition, dealing with the loss of a loved one during this season can bring up stored memories causing emotional distress. With societal pressure looming over each of us, it is important to remember that although this season expects happiness and celebration, you can do it in your own way. Find things that bring you joy this holiday season and focus on your happiness.
While we understand that visiting family may not be an option, we are here to provide alternative solutions. Start by reaching out to your family, friends and therapist for emotional and mental support throughout the season. You can create your own holiday traditions of FaceTime calls or handwritten holiday cards and letters. If you are having trouble finding your voice, connect with one of our I&R specialists today to access our programs, where you can build up your confidence and skills. If you’re dealing with the loss of a loved one, consider joining a grief workshop or peer mentoring group. Connecting with someone who understands your situation can be more beneficial than you think.
Most importantly, remember to manage expectations when it comes to the holidays. As an adult, you are often the person creating that seasonal spirit. Take the opportunity to make it your own! Establishing holiday traditions can guarantee you have something to look forward to next year. This could include traditions such as the “white elephant” gift exchange or even odder ones like ordering Chinese takeout and watching scary movies. The key is to celebrate mindfully, in a way that feels right to you.
If you’re feeling alone during the holiday season, check out these local, inclusive holiday events at https://ccprc.com/3337 to connect with individuals in your community.
The holiday season can be difficult for those dealing with disabilities or the loss of a loved one. Creating your own traditions and leveraging community resources will inevitably make you feel less isolated this icy season and bring that holiday joy you deserve.
If you are seeking additional guidance, please connect with one of our I&R specialists today to help you ease into this festive season.
Remember, YOU deserve happiness this season!
References